How do complexes cause increased expenses?

What is a complex? A frustration, an annoyance that someone else has something and you don’t. How do complexes cause you to spend more? Frustration is also a desire. You want what someone else has, what you don’t have. The problem is, in fact, that you don’t have what someone else has and you covet it.

Napoleon Complex

The Napoleon Complex is about having some pleasures to compensate for the lack of others. Napoleon, being short, owned possessions that made him seem strong and compensated for his lack of physical height. All the objects he acquired had a common goal: to be tall.

The Complex or the Desire to Be a Certain Way

Perhaps you’ve seen little girls who wear their mother’s high-heeled shoes because they want to be like their mothers. This is what happens when we go shopping, when we want to hide our appearances behind products. They do not represent our personality, but we want to impress and, thus, we highlight a complex that we have. We end up buying the most expensive car that the bank offers us on lease or loan to demonstrate what we do not have, to compensate for our inability, paying with our future.

Anything we buy for the sake of creating a certain appearance from a financial point of view involves a cost from our future. We pledge our entire future by the fact that we will have to work for a number of months, years and decades for the good we have purchased.

Complexes and consumerism

 Consumerism is focused on compensating for complexes by: enjoying the biggest TV, the newest laptop or phone, the most expensive vacation. The pleasant emotions conveyed in advertisements determine the action: to buy what others have. The advertisements convey the message that you cannot be happy without that purchase. And thus, the sadness of having the same 2-year-old phone, the same 6-year-old laptop, of not having the money for a luxury vacation appears. But here comes the solution: “you get everything you want with a quick loan”. The money you need is no longer an obstacle at the moment. Money is now obtained quickly But for what purpose? These are easily put aside to present the ease of obtaining money that is not yours.

Others’ complexes, your goals

Also, some goals that we set for ourselves come from the complexes of others: those of our parents, those of our life partner. Because your parents were unable, for various reasons, to pursue medicine, they force you to enroll in that faculty and pursue a successful career in the field they would have wanted. Your partner wants a family with many children because they were either raised alone by their parents, or they come from a large family and now want to at least have siblings.

That’s why it’s possible to get involved in goals that aren’t yours. If your parents want you to have a well-paid job and live in your own house, buying a home may become your goal just because they want it for you, even though you would be better off renting.

How do complexes cause increased spending?

 Awareness is the first step in the entire journey of personal fulfillment. I can identify where that need for my own home, the luxury vacation comes from, and whether it’s mine or someone else’s. If I really need to let my life be carried away by the veil of complexes or to act against the complex.

I assume the complex that I did not have a car in my family and if it is not necessary, not to take credit just because I want to have what I did not have.

Vacations from youth represent a desire that leads to the annihilation of various frustrations, the strangulation of negative emotions of helplessness transmitted until then. The nature of these emotions being diverse: from working in a place or field that is not suitable for one’s personality, or a toxic relationship with a family member or partner or friend.

Why does the complex raise the level of expenses?

Complexes once they appear will push the person concerned to actions that cover the complex through purchases that will bring them the joy of (apparent) overcoming the complex. A large car, if the person is short, costs more than any other car that is smaller.

The desire to impress consists of an inferiority complex – a complex transmitted in childhood.

Most of the time, a label placed on a child due to the lack of time to listen to him or be with him leads him, during his adult years, to spend his free time in “fitze” clubs or at VIP tables and to consume fine but expensive drinks.

All things bought on impulse are expensive because time and attention are not allocated to studying the quality-price ratio. The packaging, most of the time, gives the price of the product. Not always a beautiful packaging is cheap. So-called expensive things also have periods of discounts, but these are not always the case. If the complex reaches its maximum peak in a period when there are no discounts, the purchase becomes more expensive because it is made under impulse. All purchases made on impulse hide a complex. All that can wait is a purchase that is both rational and emotional, in a healthy balance: psychological and financial.

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Complexes are not a psychological health problem. They can manifest in any person, they are normal. They are emotions that hide some unfulfillment, and awareness is the key to identification. Planning the purchase decision, frugality is the solution for financial health.

Success in becoming aware of money and financial decisions!